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Originator:	mac	Printable Version
Title:	check your dad's pockets

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From: mac	On: 2007/05/25 19:21:38
remember to check your deceased parents' clothes before dumping them into the charity bin...

From: stone5150	On: 2007/05/25 19:26:00
My step-mom sorted through all my dad's belongings after he died in a nursing home. And yes, she is a typical evil step-mom, if she was a lot taller and not as foul to look at, she could have been Cinderella's step-mom.

From: mac	On: 2007/05/25 19:29:10
yea, you wouldn't want his dying wish of generosity to get by you, now.

From: stone5150	On: 2007/05/25 19:36:07
Well, after being abused by the drunken fucker all my life and then screwed out of an appointment to the Air Force Academy by him, my step-mother, a short fugly Phillipino mail order bride 'lost' the copy of the will that left his business and house to me and my sisters, but had a copy that left everything to her. Nevermind that my sisters and I had worked out asses off for most our lives to build the thing.

From: mac	On: 2007/05/26 19:44:49
shrewd. i think they teach you that in "mail order bride" school.

From: stone5150	On: 2007/05/26 20:47:48
I think they do, that and bringing every one of your moochy asshole relatives over to leech off the old man till he dies. She did that too. He was well off and popular, except for with those that saw the dark side of his drinking. I have no idea why he felt the need to order some cunt from the back of a Soldier of Fortune magazine after my mom died.

From: mac	On: 2007/05/27 09:13:39
abuse runs in families. how was he raised? how was his dad raised? is alcohol a common factor? then, how were you raised? and how are your kids being raised? is alcohol a common factor?

From: stone5150	On: 2007/05/27 12:38:24
His parents were cool from what I have heard, but they died when he was about 12 from a hot water heater explosion. Then his oldest brother, who was an real asshole, ran the household and chased away the rest of the siblings still living at home so he could take over the family farm business. My dad drank a lot but 2 of his brothers and a sister that I knew were cool. They were older when the tragedy happened and got out quickly but couldn't afford to take in the younger siblings at first till the damage was already done. My dad was a drunken asshole but my mom was intelligent and compassionate. It was like having one great parent and one really sucky one. I learned what to do and what not to do at the same time. My mom unfortunately died when I was 17, he then remarried above said step-bitch when I was 18. He also withheld an addmisions packet to the AFA til about 9 pm before the day I was supposed to report. I rarely drink myself and other than minor anger management and anxiety problems I came out OK. I am pretty fair but tend to get loud, but I still watch what I say. I am still angry at him for the academy thing and others, but I have forgiven him. If hell exists I am pretty sure he is there. The only one of my siblings with a drinking problem is the youger of my two sisters, but she was his favorite.

From: mac	On: 2007/05/27 22:11:59
it's not easy to forgive when not asked to. it's not like the guy repents at all. forgiveness would be soley for your edification. the burning coal inside can only be extinguished with forgiveness' healing power. nothing else puts the fire out. it's majical but not real easy to muster. i once heard, in marriage counseling, the couple can never really get to the 'i love you' part until after they get through the 'i hate you' part. same thing goes for forgiving parents. you gotta get through the 'i hate you' part. you're stuck there, stone. go take a hike all by yourself tomorrow WAY out in the woods, and tell him, and really tell him, and tell him again, and then see him as just a big little boy of 12, and forgive him. for your good alone. leave it in the woods really loud, then leave it in the woods. tuesday you'll specifically remember forgetting your hate, there in the woods. then you won't revisit it. it will be extinguished.

From: mac	On: 2007/05/31 22:10:37
This conversation is now closed.

From: stone5150	On: 2007/06/01 07:51:23
I have done stuff like that in the past, I think I will have to do again a few more times to get it all out.

From: mac	On: 2007/06/01 18:14:45
yea, it's not easy. i sometimes forget to remember that i forgave my ex-wife. when i get that anger building up, i close my eyes and go back to that day when i told her off, then saw her as the abused little girl and forgave her the abuse she .... well, forgave her.

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